Excessive emotional and psychological reliance on a close one is the root of co-dependency. Co-dependency is the term used to describe a person’s mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual dependence on a spouse, friend, or relative. Co-dependency can be harmful to mental health and can also lead to personality disorders. Speaking about the same, Psychotherapist Emily H. Sanders has explained seven goals that can help a person manage co-dependency in order for a person to create space for self-love in life.
Sharing an Instagram post, Emily wrote, “This list is not a “how-to,” as this can be such a nuanced subject, especially when we are factoring in attachment wounds. Codependency is a spectrum, and we are ALL on it, ranging from independent/detached to codependent/dependent. The ideal is to shoot for the middle and be interdependent.”
With the help of 7 slides, Emily explained how important it is to validate and think about yourself first. Here are some of the points she recommended her readers to follow:
Notice, identify and manage your own feelings, especially anxiety rather than focusing on others’ feelings in the hope that you will feel any better.
Learn to validate yourself, rather than waiting for others to tell you how to feel.
Get comfortable being alone to recharge and connect with yourself rather than being terrified of being alone.
Although showing concern for others is admirable, you should also remember to take care of yourself. It’s healthy to feel at ease with yourself rather than relying on the comfort of others. The health expert also urged people to explore or try out new things in order to reduce co-dependency.